RELATIONSHIP TIPS – IT’S NOT WHAT YOU FIGHT ABOUT- IT’S HOW YOU FIGHT
By Ezeodili E. Ekene
According to Sean Horan, PhD, associate professor of communication studies at Texas State University
“Researchers have found that four conflict messages are able to predict whether couples remain together or get divorced: contempt, criticism, stonewalling (or withdrawal), and defensiveness.
Together, they’re known as ‘The Four Horsemen.’ Instead of resorting to these negative tactics, fight fairly: Look for places where each partner’s goal overlaps into a shared common goal and build from that. Also, focus on using ‘I’ versus ‘you’ language.”
Fighting with your partner is inevitable, it must happen. The question is Will it make your relationship stronger or break it?
For me, it is necessary once in a while, let all that bad blood out and come to a peaceful conclusion.
Thanks…. Catch you all next week 🙂 😉